We had our meeting with the new fertility doctor. He's great. His office is great. We are really happy with our choice. Next step: labs by the handful. No sweat; we've been through this before.
I spoke with the financial counselor and it looked like we were covered by our insurance for IVF. No way! We were so excited. We had been concerned about the cost and as she laid it out for me, it looked like we were going to have to pay very little out of pocket.
I started to tell some of my friends that we were going to do IVF. I started to get excited again. All these emotions I had been stuffing down for the past 3 1/2 years were finally getting sorted out.
Then I got a message today from the financial counselor. Apparently we are not covered for IVF. What? I am really confused. I haven't been able to get a hold of her yet to find out what in the world is going on! I haven't gotten a cost sheet from her yet, so I have no idea what kind of costs we are talking about. I don't know what my insurance will cover.
And I am so depressed about all of this. It is the first blow in this roller coaster that is called IVF. You get your hopes up and then the ground falls out from underneath you. Negative thoughts begin to creep in. I'm pushing them away right now. I just want the facts, ma'am. Just the facts.
We are taking our girls to the Frozen Sing Along tonight. We need to get out and do something as a family before tax season takes over our lives. I think they will have a great time.
Until next time, keep your fingers crossed that this financial situation gets straightened out!
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Friday, February 7, 2014
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Even More to Think About
We had our conference call with the facilitator in SoCal on Friday. I felt really good about her and felt like she would really do her best to find us a baby. When I got home later that day, I sat down to my computer and saw a picture of TenderHeart, at about 3 months old, on my screen. I took a picture of it and texted it to Husband saying, didn't we make the most beautiful babies?
That night after all the kids had gone to sleep, Husband said that he had been doing some thinking; about birth mothers who were smoking a pack a day or on drugs, about birth mothers asking for lots of money for "support", about walking away from a baby we so desperately wantd because the birth mom had changed her mind, and finally about our beautiful baby girls. He thought it might be a good idea to try IVF again.
I hung my head. When we finished our last frozen embryo transfer in August 2012, he was the more outspoken one, saying he didn't want to do anymore IVF cycles. Ever. And so, for almost 18 months, we have been trying on our own and end up disappointed month after month.
Yes, I said. I will do IVF again. But not with the same doctor. I checked online at what my options were. Lucky for us there are several IVF clinics in the Bay Area. We have an appointment with the new clinic on Monday.
Since I made my appointment, I keep reliving all my previous attempts. I did a fresh cycle in 2007 and got pregnant on the first try with our twins! We froze 4 embryos. We transferred 2 in March 2012 and only one survived for our attempt in August 2012. I thought about all the shots and the discomfort and the blood draws and wondered how I could manage it taking care of three kids?
I will be 35 in June, so now the clock is ticking against me for real. I am already happy with the service I have received from my new IVF clinic and I'm hoping they give me good news, that we can move forward quickly with treatment.
Adoption is not totally out of the picture. However the cost of doing an IVF cycle is much less than adoption. Even doing a few cycles will still be less expensive. Why should it be this way? But I'm still researching my options so that if something great comes up, we will be ready to go.
That night after all the kids had gone to sleep, Husband said that he had been doing some thinking; about birth mothers who were smoking a pack a day or on drugs, about birth mothers asking for lots of money for "support", about walking away from a baby we so desperately wantd because the birth mom had changed her mind, and finally about our beautiful baby girls. He thought it might be a good idea to try IVF again.
I hung my head. When we finished our last frozen embryo transfer in August 2012, he was the more outspoken one, saying he didn't want to do anymore IVF cycles. Ever. And so, for almost 18 months, we have been trying on our own and end up disappointed month after month.
Yes, I said. I will do IVF again. But not with the same doctor. I checked online at what my options were. Lucky for us there are several IVF clinics in the Bay Area. We have an appointment with the new clinic on Monday.
Since I made my appointment, I keep reliving all my previous attempts. I did a fresh cycle in 2007 and got pregnant on the first try with our twins! We froze 4 embryos. We transferred 2 in March 2012 and only one survived for our attempt in August 2012. I thought about all the shots and the discomfort and the blood draws and wondered how I could manage it taking care of three kids?
I will be 35 in June, so now the clock is ticking against me for real. I am already happy with the service I have received from my new IVF clinic and I'm hoping they give me good news, that we can move forward quickly with treatment.
Adoption is not totally out of the picture. However the cost of doing an IVF cycle is much less than adoption. Even doing a few cycles will still be less expensive. Why should it be this way? But I'm still researching my options so that if something great comes up, we will be ready to go.
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